Men Don't Listen and Wayne L. Misner 2016©    

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Why do I Write©

(By Wayne L. Misner www.MenDontListen.com, MenDontListen@aol.com)




Therapists say writing about traumatic, stressful or emotional events has been found to result in improvements in both physical and psychological health.

That was why I started writing, and that is why I still write. It is what got me through those moments of worthlessness, depression, and hopelessness.

We all must remember that every story matters to the person living it. Writing is an outlet for feelings when there is no one to talk with or no one that can be trusted. Some feelings and thoughts are so private only writing them in a diary or on a piece of paper will keep the secret.


So I decided I would write about life events I have faced.


To my Amazement people reading my stories felt they too were benefiting from my creative outlet. In counseling they call it “therapeutic alliance”. I call it a “therapeutic relationship”. I want my reader and me to be allies helping both of us in this journey we are on. My motivation for writing helped me find myself. With that in mind, I share what I write for others to feel they have an ally somewhere in this world--stories in which they can find themselves and know they are not alone.


Writing keeps me creative, passionate and alive but can at times be frustrating. The first thing that comes to mind is the urge to release the thoughts from the swirling whirlpool and hazy, foggy corners of my mind.



I sometimes struggle with how to put into words or describe what someone else may feel within their own experiences and emotions.


I write because I feel as if I can contribute something to open minds or hearts. One very rewarding feeling I get is to light up a person’s face with the work I pour my own heart and efforts into.


When writing I don’t have to know all the answers yet, either. It is just as helpful to my reader that we are facing problems that might not have answers or reasons. It is more important to the reader that others have also faced these same types of events and have survived. They have continued living in a world that sometimes is confusing and heartless.


When I am writing I am not bound by the limitations of age, sex, religion, class and ethnicity, because feelings and emotions are blind.


So writing is sharing happy events, sad events, and everyday happenings. The main advantage of putting everything into words is the words can be shared with everyone forever!


English author Edward Bulwer-Lytton wrote, “The pen is mightier than the sword”. It is, for it has slayed many of my fears.